So, a little advice. Relax. You’re not filling a job position. You’re looking for a pleasant acquaintance.. who might become a good friend… who turns out to be attractive to your senses… and a rewarding lover… then a committed partner whose heart will not stray. If you don’t see those signposts and in that order, then you’re probably on the wrong road and getting more lost with every step.
– Anthony D. Ravenscroft, Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless and Hopeful
http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/540450-so-a-little-advice-relax-you-re-not-filling-a-job